I Went To A Black Owned Adult Games Night | Peaches Nights Review
It’s my third time attending a black-owned adult event, a phrase that it is necessary that I use as though sex takes place here, this event is not advertised as a sex party. This is Peaches Nights, an adults only, 25+, judgement free games night centred around fostering a space that gently takes the focus off sex and centres community. Make no mistake, this is still a sex party at its core, but the Peaches team provide a sort of padding in how they market and run it, that helps it stand out from its competitors.
It’s early March, the night is balmy with the budding warmth of spring. I’m dressed a little more provocatively this time around as my partner has joined me for the night. It’s been a minute since we’ve hit up a party together, so I opted for something slightly more practical for ease of access should we choose to indulge in our carnal desires. My hair is braided and decorated with long black satin ribbons, my frame wrapped in a crotchless fishnet catsuit beneath my favourite black lace and sequinned body suit from Ann Summers (this is not sponsored, I just REALLY love this body suit, so if you’re a plus sized babe with a fuller bust looking for something supportive that will make you feel fucking hawt, I’ve linked it here -they also do it in straight sizes here).
I feel fabulous, sexy, sparkly and dare I say, a little mysterious -which I will inevitably ruin the second I open my mouth lol. Opening my mouth is part of the deal tonight (not like that, I mean professionally because I’m getting paid to do it *wink *). Though I’m here to see what Peaches has to offer those of you looking for an inclusive place to spread your legs, I am also hosting the game segment of the night (see, professional mouth opening). During my career as a sexpert, this isn’t my first time taking the floor at a sex party adult games night, but I admit, I’m a little more nervous than usual because it’s a black audience and my desire to be liked seems to kick in when it’s us. Need to unpack that at some point lol.
First Impressions & Privacy
We enter the House of Poitier, the unassuming Georgian townhouse-cum-erotic event space that I’ve attended before for Anomalii’s party. The set up is different this time around, with rose gold balloons in the foyer spelling out the theme of the night, ‘Slumber Party’. There is a DJ booth set up in the corner, the first thing that makes Peaches stand out to me, as music isn’t something that is always centred. This makes me happy. I feel like a dance aspect being highlighted takes the pressure off of the sex part a bit and is something that can allow you to slip into sensual activities more naturally as dancing is inherently sexual.
The security greet us at the door and someone takes my partners phone to put it in a lock box (I get to keep mine for content purposes). This is the first time I’ve experienced phones being wholly removed, as most places opt for putting stickers over the camera lens and trusting that their attendees will follow the rules (which they generally do). As far as insuring everyone’s privacy is protected, I think this is a nice touch. Aside from unauthorised recording, phones can be a bit of a social barrier/safety net. Not having them encourages you to interact.
Speaking of privacy, as with the other parties I attended, Peaches is a private members club, open to all genders and sexualities. In order to attend you must register and be screened for approval by their team. If you are unsure if you want to register, they occasionally hold munches to give non-members a feel for their vibe and community.
Munch
Definition: A casual, non-sexual social gathering, typically held in a public venue, designed for people in the adult community to socialise in a comfortable environment.
As I’m hosting, we are one of the first attendees to arrive, so whilst the space is empty, I peruse the venue to see the set up. The bar area is lined with gift bags with branded Peaches merch for attendees, which was a really nice touch. From a marketing perspective, I have to say that I love that the Peaches team is so detail orientated and that they consider things like this early on in their journey. It makes me look forward to what they will do as they continue to grow.
Venue
The room across from the bar is a cloak room/changing area, down the hall is a chill out area decorated with a slumber party vibe with loads of cushions and blankets and a beautiful crystal chandelier hovering above it all. There are two playrooms with BDSM equipment filled with spanking benches, a bed with a two way mirror on the other side for the exhibitionists and voyeurs to indulge themselves, a padded bondage cross, a cage, queening chair (a chair with a hole cut out in the seat where you lover can lay with their head beneath) and a seated contraption like a gyno chair gone kinky that I couldn’t resist climbing in and giggling while my partner locked my ankles into the stirrups. Other amenities included a bathroom and an outdoor space.
The stairs are strung with flickering fairy lights and dusted with white feathers as if a sexy pillow fight had ensued leading to the other rooms. Upstairs the lighting turns moody in hues of blues and reds. There are rooms filled with massive beds all pushed together to create one giant play space -perfect for orgies or an overly adventurous couple. There are also rooms with large singular beds for those who aren’t so inclined to take part in group activities and another bathroom.
My Experience
I chat with the staff, everyone is friendly, welcoming and happy to help if you need anything. As we wait for guests to arrive, I help set up games. Slowly people start to filter through the doors in their takes on the Slumber Party theme, ranging from cute pyjama sets and more easy going sleepwear vibes, to TLC Creep silk sets and lingerie. The DJ is playing a selection of R&B, Hip Hop, Afrobeats and Bashment, people are drinking, chatting and laughing and waiting for the night to set things into motion.
Around 1am everyone gathered in the chill out area, split into three teams and we played the first two games. One was an icebreaker so everyone could get to know each other better, followed by ‘Pin The Tail on The Peach’, then we gathered in the foyer to play a game that involved using sex positions to pop a balloon. The crowd were sufficiently warmed up after that, so I expended some safe, consensual play tips and we set them loose.
It was more of an intimate setting this time around, so there was more room to play, but I discovered something about myself that evening -I don’t like being watched. Have I had sex at sex parties before? Yes. Did it bother me then? No. I now realise that if there’s loads of people (and I’m a little more inebriated), I don’t really give a damn. Everybody is fucking so my participation isn’t the sole focus, but on this occasion, when my partner and I slipped off into an empty room, every time someone came in, I felt awkward as fuck.
The rule at Peaches is that you’re not allowed to lock any of the doors, but I kept getting thrown off by people coming in, and the staff knew it was me and my partner in there, so I was naughty and locked it. Instead of people entering, instead there was rattling doorknobs and at one point I heard, “Scotty is in there.” Friend, I couldn’t do it, which is kind of embarrassing (but not really) because when did I get so fucking shy? Maybe we left it too long between parties, maybe I’m more reserved now that I’m older, maybe working at an event wasn’t a recipe for eroticism…or perhaps I was never an exhibitionist to begin with.
The experience made me reassess how sex parties make me feel and what value they provide to me personally. So far, my conclusion is that I absolutely adore being in sex positive spaces and that maybe being in this line of work for so long has turned me into a voyeur in more of a ‘social observation’ way than in a sexual way. Watching people fuck does not turn me on, but I find it fascinating and at times highly entertaining. I love seeing people of all, ages, shapes, sizes genders and sexualities get dressed up in erotic clothing. I love how joyous, confident, liberated and empowered they are by their sensual sides, especially in a majority POC setting. At this point in time, I feel like maybe sex parties are more of a social vibe for me than a place to get my back cracked in (which is absolutely fine, you don’t have to go to sex parties to have sex), but I would like to work towards participating again. That being said, because of the way Peaches is set up, I didn’t feel pressured to take part in play. I think if you’re a sex party beginner, Peaches is a good place to start.
This kind of reflection is another reason I think experiences like this are beneficial, because they provide a whole new arena for you to figure yourself out sexually, to seek new interests or clarify ones you already have.
Unlike myself, the other Peaches attendees were active, and everyone seemed to have a good time. Things I think could be improved upon are some aspects of the organisation, as it ran behind a bit, but the owner did inform me that he was a little understaffed for that event, so I sympathise there. It didn’t dampen the overall experience. Other than that, it’s a well thought out, enjoyable, safe and friendly event.
The crowd was generally around early to mid 30s, but they are welcoming of all ages as long as you’re over 25, and tickets are reasonably priced (I think this event was around £35 if I remember correctly), so if you’d like to attend, they do have some events coming up (sidenote -I love their website, it’s so professional looking and easy to navigate).
The first one is a social event open to members and non-members, called The First Bite on 26th March @ Odessey Bar.
The next one is a members-only party, Channel Peach, on the 24th April at House of Poitier. You will need to register to attend.
If you’d like to add some sun, sea and sand to your salacious activities, Peaches Nights also run weekenders abroad, so make sure you’re following them to stay updated.
Thank you to Peaches for having me.
If there are any other parties you guys would like my honest review on, please feel free to leave a comment below.
