I Went To A Black-Owned Masquerade Sex Party | Anomalii Review
Another night pulling up in an Uber on another unassuming street, with my one of my girls in tow. We hold our coats around our bodies, concealing the irreligious outfits beneath them. Inebriated and giggly, we approach a charming Georgian townhouse with security guards posted at the entrance. As always in these situations, I start to get nervous and wonder if going to sex parties will always feel like this; like I’m doing something ‘naughty’ , but loving it all the more for the thrill of rebellion against the status quo.
The security guards ask us to present our IDs and then we’re warmly welcomed inside to a house overflowing with magically dressed black people, reminiscent of a lust-drunk fairytale. The guests fill the decorated hallways, rooms and staircase, elaborately masked or with pretty painted faces -courtesy of the face paint artist in the chill out area -their bared brown bodies twinkling with glitter, embellished with lights, flowers and fairy wings.
As an alt black girlie obsessed with fantasy, I love me a melanated fairytale fantasy moment, so when the popular purveyors of black owned adult parties, Anomalii, announced their Midsummer Masquerade theme, a fantastical masked adult affair, so many of my fancies were immediately tickled. I had to be there.
I’d been aware of Anomalii for a while, through many recommendations both on and offline from friends, other adult party goers and followers alike, praising how good their events were. Since I’d struck up this desire to attend and review diverse sex parties to let you guys know where to go on the black UK kink scene, it was only right that I tried what seemed to be one of the most popular choices.
Anomalii is a black-owned sex party run by a married couple. They specialise in masquerades- great for those of you who wish to conduct your affairs with some anonymity. Their events are open to all genders and orientations, with the goal to bring “people from different backgrounds, walks of life, fetishes and orientations together for the journey to sexual liberation.”
Ticket Process & Dress Codes
As with Cocoa Muscovado, who I reviewed previously, you have to become a member to attend Anomalii parties. To be considered for membership, register your interest with them via email (anomaliiparties@gmail.com) or through their form . They will then put you through their screening process to make sure you are suitable- suitable being that you understand the importance of consent, safety, boundaries, respect for others and conducting yourself properly in an adult space.
This process will require you to provide your personal details (the staff do not share your information outside of their organisation), so if you’re uncomfortable doing that, this may not be for you. It allows Anomalii to provide the safest experience possible as it holds everyone accountable for their actions, meaning people are less likely to cross lines. I am in full support of this practice as some unsavoury incidents that have taken place at less regulated/more mainstream parties. An organisation that puts your safety first will always trump the rest and if you have no ill-intent and behave yourself properly, you have nothing to worry about.
Once you’ve been approved, they will allow you to purchase a ticket. Once you’re in, the team will keep you updated with emails about the location, a Pinterest board for outfit inspo (no pedestrian wear allowed- they don’t play about EVERYONE being on theme), FAQs that cover their community rules, what you’ll be provided with at the venue and suggestions on what to bring. It’s all very straight forward and well organised, with friendly, identifiable staff on hand to assist you if you need it.
We visited the bar to deposit our drinks, as Anomalii is a BYOB function, though they did also provide complimentary rum punch and snacks as well. We then made a quick stop off to the changing area to remove and add bits to our outfits to fit the theme.
I wore a lace double thigh split dress, a pearl garter, a fairy crown, elf ears and gold and pearl accessories. I bypassed wearing the mask because my partner wasn’t there, so I had no intention of playing (this was strictly for science!) and it was summertime so the house was kinda hot. My friend wore a black lace bodysuit with a black harness set from Crystals N Couture (black woman-owned fetishwear business), elf ears and a gemstone studded mesh mask, which we had to rework because it was originally a balaclava. She looked like a divalicious robber lol. It’s posted somewhere in the depths of her TikTok and it’s hilarious. Reworked mask aside, my girl looked tf good!
Though attendees are restricted from taking pictures, Anomalii has their own photographer on site who will only take pictures, if you consent to it. You can see some of the images on their social media that displays the outfits but generally hides the faces of the party goers.
Special Features
Inside the townhouse, our names are checked off the guest list, our phone cameras are covered, and we’re given 3 small yellow Anomalii ‘Connect Tokens’. These tokens are a clever tactic Anomalii devised to encourage consensual play and let potential partners know that you’re interested in playing with them. How it works is that if you meet someone (or several someones) that you are interested in playing with, you can hand them your token. If they offer you one back, that indicates that they want to play with you too. The belief that people who attend adult parties are a super free and super freaky bunch isn’t true of every attendee. They’re normal everyday people, with normal lives and normal jobs who just happen to be interested in exploring their sexuality in a safe, open and judgement free space. It’s not unnatural for it to feel awkward asking someone you’ve just met if they’d like to have sex with you, so this method is a handy ice breaking tool to relieve some of the awkwardness.
Another helpful device that Anomalii employ to make things smoother for their attendees are yellow wristbands. Attendees can wear these wristbands to signify that they are interested in same-sex play -we love an inclusive space!
First Impressions
The venue setup was good. On the ground floor there were five rooms a bathroom and an outdoor smoking area that were accessed from the foyer where they had music playing. The five rooms consisted of the bar which was connected to the cloakroom/changing room, a chill out area with sofas and a lovely chandelier (so fancy!). This was where the face painting lady was. I didn’t get mine done because understandably there was queue (her work was so gorgeous). This room had a two-way mirror between it, that allowed you to watch what was happening in one of the playrooms. This playroom was equipped with a bed that had loops for restraint purposes, a spanking bench and a St Andrews Cross. Across the hall was another play room with two other spanking benches, one with a cage beneath it, a bondage bench with stirrups reminiscent of a gyno chair, a queening chair (it has a hole cut it the bottom so someone can lay beneath it and perform oral on you) and another iron contraption in the shape of a spider web. I’m not sure if it was there for decoration or if it had a function, but it was there. Both playrooms had additional seating.
The second floor of the house (if I remember correctly) had 4 rooms and another bathroom. These rooms were mostly filled with beds; some singular and other with a few beds lined up together to make one huge bed for orgies. One of the rooms had more BDSM equipment in it, but I didn’t spend much time up there so I can’t recall exactly what it was Another had beds covered in splash proof blankets for those who had a tendency to get messy (squirters, I’m looking at you). What I do remember is that they made use of mood lighting in these spaces, so on the few times I peeked inside to see what was going on I could just see bodies on bodies for the most part. On one occasion I did see one of my friends having sex, gasped and scuttled off back downstairs never to return. It’s funny that seeing strangers having sex is like, ‘You go Glen Coco’, but seeing people you know (for me anyway) it’s like, ‘Omg no, my sweet, darling, baby angel, do not let him defile you with his dark magic!’ because obviously all my friends are perfect divine creatures whom no man is worthy of touching.
My Experience
Anomalii kicked of the night with some ice breakers and then a spicy demonstration by their house domme (identified by her blue arm band) who was also available upstairs afterwards to punish partygoers. There was a queue for that too. I wanted to sign up, but I can’t lie, I got shook. Have I had sex in a sex party before? Yes. Have I been publicly flogged? No. I think because I’ve never engaged in this with my partner, I’m afraid of how I would react and be perceived, and that those fears would hinder the experience because I’d be too in my head to enjoy it.
What I find so interesting about being in these spaces is how it can reveal you to yourself. Take me and my job in sexual wellness, I have a level of openness and shamelessness that some people think is wild or admirable, little do they know that I’m literally just a girl. In a controlled intimate space, I’m generally open to doing and trying things (barring things that are hard limits for me), but in a party setting I tend to shrink back into what I feel is safe to explore, even more so when I’m in black spaces (when I’m in predominantly white spaces, I don’t care as much). Does anyone else experience this? For other people, they may thrive in these settings, becoming more outgoing and unapologetic in their sexual appetite. Honestly, you guys are my heaux goals. I admire your freedom -I’m tryna be like youuuuu, big man! But it’s a journey, right? Hopefully the more I explore and play in these spaces, the more comfortable I will be.
Towards the latter part of the evening, when we were in the thick of the hedonistic festivities, I found myself in the corner of the two-way mirror room with my friends, watching women line up to be spanked by a Dom armed with two floggers. The ladies would drape their frames over the spanking bench and he would exercise his expertise on them, giving them a number system to communicate the pain level so he could adjust his technique accordingly. He made sure that they were okay and safe throughout, which was very lovely. One of my friends volunteered herself and had a great time. Over on the bed, his actual sub (who donned a yellow wristband), was getting off with another woman. It was all very fascinating, but later spoiled a tad when a ‘Dom-Off’ took place. “What is a Dom-Off?”, you ask. Girl (universal), I don’t fucking know! All I remember is another Dom came in the room and was like “I’m a better Dom than you!” and then they started having some fucking neeky argument about who was the best. I got the ick and left. Very unsexy.
Whilst I was purely a voyeur (and nosy parker) for the night, my friend, who is on her own journey of sexual rediscovery and empowerment, made a connection and acquired her first Dom. Though we don’t love him (fuck that guy), experience wise, we love that for her! She is very new to the kink scene, so it was lovely that she got to explore a different side to sex and discover that she liked things she never considered before and learn what wasn’t for her.
Kink is a great tool for expanding your sexual horizons. A lot of the time when BDSM is put forward to the mainstream, its all latex, whips, chains and pain, but there is also a softer more sensual side to it too and a level of intimacy that you may not experience with vanilla sex. This is one of the reasons why I run my beginner-friendly kink workshops (open to women, femmes and they/thems), because it’s a safe space to explore different forms of kink play, learn more about your desires and possibly discover something new about yourself to incorporate into your pleasure.
Final Thoughts
All in all I had a great time at Anomalii. They had a great turn out, there were prizes for the best dressed attendees. Honestly, it was just as good as everybody said and remains one of my favourite parties to date.
If you would like to attend, I strongly suggest that you get in there now as sadly they are throwing one final event this November before bidding farewell to their magnificent masquerade parties. The event is The Last Dance Masquerade Ball, a 2-day black tie hotel and club takeover from the 14th - 15th of November 2025. Tickets on sale Saturday 30th August at 6pm to registered members only (you can register through the info I linked earlier).
You can stay up to date with Anomalii via their Instagram: @anomaliiparties or via their X(Twitter): @Anomalii_.
Next up in this diverse sex party series I will be reviewing Peaches , so make sure you’re following me so that you don’t miss that.
If you have any other parties you’d like me to check out, drop me a comment below.
