Men & Fatphobia
“It's time to worry if you're not a guy who fancies himself a chubby chaser.” –Current reigning King of the Dickheads
Happy Monday, Fancy Faces! I hope your day has been as tun up as you are.
Just over a week ago there was an article posted on Barstool Sports, shittily titled ‘Is Rihanna Going to Make Being Fat the Hot New Trend?’, by some half-nut, noodle dick man called Chris Spags, who stepped way too far out of his lane to spew a special kind of fatphobia.
Before we jump into this topic I’d like to note that I’m not a crazy Ri-Ri stan, so this isn’t some Navy backlash, the shit just genuinely pissed me off in a general sense because of the message it put out there about the policing of women’s bodies for male consumption. The article has since been removed and the writer is currently suspended from his job (Miss Karma, hunny, you betta come tf through!) so if you didn’t get to experience the full-on offensiveness of it you’ll have to make do with the quotes salvaged from the internet, below:
“A world of ladies shaped like the Hindenburg loaded into one-piece bathing suits may be on the horizon now that Rihanna is traipsing around out there looking like she's in a sumo suit."
“So you see her pushing 180 and it’s a tough world to stomach. With all the fat acceptance and “love me as I am” crowd, there’s definitely a world where I could see chicks see Rihanna make some strong “I don’t give a fuck I just love pizza” quote that goes viral and bam we’re in a world where all the hottest girls look like the humans in Wall-E and just in time for summer.”
“And based on what I've seen, that means it's time to worry if you're not a guy who fancies himself a chubby chaser.”
"Sure, it might be a bad photo, or maybe she’s been enjoying too much room service on the road, or maybe fingers crossed here – she’s just pregnant, which would be such a relief, because at least she wouldn’t be fat, right?"
His issue is that because Ri is the iconic, flawless, trendsetting black goddess that she is, he is afraid that all women are gonna aspire to being fat and unfortunately all of these poor men are going to have to “get used to [wanking off to] BBW porn” because of it.
Sometimes, what people define as fat is dumb to the point where I just have to side-eye them with a ‘bitch where?’ Rihanna is not fat, like, not even a little bit. Yes she’s currently sporting the kind of thick thighs that save lives (which I am all the way here for) but she’s still a skinny bitch, so I really don’t understand. If she is considered fat, then what the fuck are the rest of us who actually have some extra jiggle to our juggle?
Naturally, the writer is a typical mediocre looking, common, common soft bodied man. Does this grant him the right to make the comments he did? No. Did he do it anyway? Of course!
Due to patriarchal based nurturing, men are granted get more freedom to carry themselves however because they are taught that money, status, intelligence, power, personality and all of the shit that really matters, is what is important.
Women, on the other hand, are taught to be pretty…well, the male idea of pretty, so that we might be lucky enough to be made somebody’s wife and bear their children one day (lucky us). When we don’t fit into that mould, no matter how brilliant and accomplished we are, we are vilified for it. If we don’t look as close to the fantasy that male dominated media so aggressively shoves down our throats (which some men then cling to and reinforce through their own fucking entitled dialogues), we leave ourselves open to attack.
It is this policing of women’s bodies that annoys me; WHY MUST THE WAY WE CARRY OURSELVES BE ABOUT YOU?
Fam, how can a whole regular, schemgular, degular, no-gains-having you sit down and talk about the horrors of fat girls, but then you’re not even in tip top shape yourself, plis? And it’s irritating because he’s not the only man who behaves like this. It’s kinda like when females who don’t even have a provisional licence want a man who drives –in this scenario, these men are the fucking bright, no-licence-having-ass bitches. Their shit is not even together so why do they talk? They are too quick to open up their crispy lips and speak on how women should look and behave. Brudda, worry ‘bout yo’self, init!
There is a saying, “What we see in others is a reflection of ourselves.” The people we come into contact with, the shit we notice or experience in our day to day lives that trigger strong reactions are put in front of us because it is a reflection of us in some way and often points out things that we have yet to deal with within ourselves. The negative reactions towards fat bodies are linked to the way that these people struggle with their own bodies.
Fatphobia is real.
In my opinion, this shitty article was a clear case of psychological projection, which a lot of people with fatphobia seem to act out.
Psychological projection: A theory in which humans defend themselves against their own unconscious impulses or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence in themselves while attributing them to others.
Your shit is not together, but instead of you chilling and working out your insecurities, you’re going attack someone else and be like, ‘You’re fat and I don’t like it.’ Bruv, if that’s the way that you feel there's a chance that you have your own body issues. Your confidence is a bit low (poor ting), so in order for you to feel better about it, you put someone else down.
Fatphobia extends beyond chat shit, Twitter finger boys who don’t have their bodies ‘right’. With guys that are proper on this gym ting, when they make these kinds of comments, it’s due to their own fear of their own fatness, not health, because there are healthy fat women (but we know you lot don't actually care about how healthy anyone is) –fatness. Maybe they were fat/soft/skinny before, and these views pertain to their own physical upkeep.
This is what annoys me; PEOPLE NEED TO STOP PUSHING THEIR SHIT ONTO OTHER PEOPLE AND THEN ACTING LIKE IT’S THAT PERSONS PROBLEM. How men feel about women's bodies are not their problem. They are fine, and they don’t need to change it to appease you.
This is your problem and you don’t know how to deal with it accordingly so you’re trying to force them to. You are the one that is unhappy with some aspect of your life and then when you see that aspect manifest in things outside of you, you wanna attack it because you aren’t equipped to deal with it. Like fam, sit down, meditate, breathe bitch, mind your own damn business and stop coming at women about their weight.
Some men feel so inclined to speak on women in terms of what they look like or how they carry themselves (and yes I know that some women do the same to men, but this post isn’t about that, so if you feel to speak on it, write your own damn blog post about it. This right here is for the fat bitches, thanks) and it’s mostly either to tear them down or to talk about wanting to put your peasant penis in places it’s not even invited, you presumptuous little shit. A man wrote a whole entire article about how unattractive he finds Rihanna because she’s thicker than a mutha fuckin’ snicker, BUT ARE YOU GONNA BANG DOH? No, it’s not even a viable option so why are your gums flapping? Relax yo teef, blud!
With as much progress as we’ve made with body positivity movement and feminism, some women still hold onto that ‘cater to men’ mentality (I'm not coming for anyone. Do you, boo), so when you say shit about slim women like Rihanna being fat, you are fucking with less confident girls who are still quite set on traditional norms and values, who don’t know any better than not to listen to your stupid ass. The shit you spew so recklessly affects them and sometimes in dangerous ways, to the point that girls will starve themselves and make themselves ill so as not to feel ridiculed and unwanted by you.
Fatphobia is trash in general, but when it comes from men it’s just extra –ugh!
Ladies, please, I beg, stop listening to what these ashy, tickle dick men have to say about you and your body. What they think about you is not important. How men want you to look and carry yourself is not important. You do not belong to them, you belong to you.
What is important is the view you hold of yourself. You deserve to feel at home in your own body as much as anyone else. You are entitled to loving yourself and being desired and loved by another exactly as you are.
Trust me when I tell you that not giving a fuck about opinions is tun up. Look at how Rihanna handled the attention from this article:
More time, Rihanna could be a big bitch and still kill the fucking game; she’s just fly like that and she knows it.
It’s so jarring to see women attacked for putting on weight, especially when their bodies are policed in so many other ways, and the slander we deal with isn’t afforded on the same level to men.
To the fatphobic fuckboys like Chris, understand this, simple bitch;
YOU DO NOT GET TO DECIDE HOW ATTRACTIVE WE ARE. YOU ARE NOT FINANCING, FUCKING OR FEEDING US, SO IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS, AND EVEN IF YOU WERE, IT WOULD STILL BE NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS BECAUSE IT’S NOT YOUR PUSSYCLAAT BODY!
We could be sitting in our yard in holey jogging bottoms, a silk bonnet, dry hands and a muffin top, and bitch, if we say we’re the shit, we are the shit, and who the fuck are you with your bad credit score and low sperm count to tell us otherwise? You think you and your un-shit-gotten-together self can come tell us any different? Fuck right off, Barry!
Anyway, that’s all I wanted to say about that...lol.
Ladies, I love you, and trust and know that ya bitch has got you.
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Love Scotty x